LOADING... Emily J. Hooks


Why Is Self-forgiveness So Damn Hard?

End of life is the most common time for people to fully embrace forgiveness. Perhaps the dying are gifted with a perspective that eludes most of us as we busily scurry through life making plans and chasing goals. Maybe those freed from a relentless obsession with the future see more clearly the delicate and precious…


Make Forgiveness Your New Year’s Intention

Want to lose weight? Find your dream job? Improve your relationships? Learn to love yourself more fully? Be a better boss, parent, friend, partner? Forgiveness might be just where you need to start. I’m casting a wide net here, I know. To claim learning to forgive will help you lose weight might sound like hyperbole,…


A Simple Practice for the Holidays

The holidays are a special time. We reflect, celebrate, and share in more meaningful ways. We go to office parties, see old friends, and visit family. For some, this is an opportunity for joy and connection. For others, it brings up unhealed or partially healed hurts. Forgiveness in isolation is easy. Mastery requires us to…


Judgment is Judgment: Your preachin’ ain’t helpin’!

Imagine how much suffering you would have had to endure to allow hatred to permeate your heart—your very being. Pause now and consider it. Stop pretending you are constitutionally superior and imagine that the difference between you and the people who scare you most is what you and they have experienced in this lifetime. And,…


Gratitude and Forgiveness

Absolute forgiveness is a state in which we perceive, beyond doubt, there is nothing to forgive. When we are filled with love and gratitude for everything that has led to this moment, we have an instinctive understanding that there are no mistakes. We develop a deep self-compassion and a limitless sense of love. We come…


Managing Anger in the Forgiveness Process

There is no such thing as a bad feeling. There are unpleasant feelings, feelings that disrupt our peace. But, an emotion itself is never objectively wrong. It just is. What is Anger? Anger is a universal human experience. Whether you’re from a small village in Thailand or Manhattan, you’ve probably experienced anger at some point…


Is Regret a Bad Thing?

Forgiveness begins when we realize we are suffering because of something that happened in the past. Forgiving others is usually triggered by the pain associated with anger or resentment. Forgiving ourselves starts when we become aware of regret. Regret, or guilt, is a feeling of sadness or disappointment associated with something we have done. Maybe…


What Will You Create in 2018?

Whether we like it or not, our circumstances are most often determined by our actions. Human beings have an inexplicable capacity to fool ourselves. We tell ourselves, “I will get in shape in the new year.” Or, “I will move past the pain of that failed relationship…abuse…addiction…hurtful action,” only to end another year in the…


What Lies Beyond Forgiveness?

We appear to live in an unforgiving world. There are several reasons for this. Many do not understand what forgiveness really is. They falsely believe it is about the other person or that if they offer clemency, they put themselves at risk. Others don’t know the benefits of true forgiveness. Still, others forgive some things…


Stepping Stones to Forgiveness

Gazing back at where I’ve been I see a path dotted with stones. They form an impeccable passageway through jungles and deserts, darkness and light. When I think back, I remember how precarious each step seemed. Some stones swayed, others seemed just out of reach. I stalled on some, staying so long by body grew weary….


Sorry, no posts matched your criteria.